DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVE AND ATTACHMENT –
Attachment is when you want a person to make you happy and give you what you want.
It’s a feeling of dependency, of attachment: “I can’t live without you”,
“Without you my life is meaningless”,
“you make me happy”… When there is passion, there is attachment. It is an illusory state of mind. There is no freedom, but dependence, bondage.
In an attachment relationship, the couple needs the other to complete them, to fill their inner emptiness, to make them happy. And if you don’t give him everything he needs, there is a great inner emptiness and a lot of suffering.
When instead of attachment, there is love in a couple, the most important thing is “Wish each other to be happy”. Whatever happens, whatever you decide, whether you’re with us or not, true love just wants the happiness of the other.
There is no dependency, because each one is a source of love, neither one fills the void of the other, because each one is full of love, and then they share it. In a loving relationship, there is freedom, there is expansion of consciousness. It is a mutual help for the spiritual path of the two people who share love.
To fall in love. It’s mental, egocentric, there’s no maturity, there’s emotional scarcity and you look for the other, you need the other to fill you up and make you happy.
When you’re in love, you lose yourself. It is a loss of consciousness, because one lives in a totally illusory state, of the ego.
On the other hand, when instead of falling in love, there is love as an understanding capacity, there is no ego, there is no mind, it is a love of the heart, of the soul, and you can be with the other person, and in solitude, because being you full, being a source of light and love, you don’t need the other to fill you. What you do when there is true love is give to the other and feel happy.